You are right, he’s useless. One thing I learned from my boyfriends in my 20’s and 30’s is that how your BF treats you on your birthday is a good predictor of how they will treat you and your relationship. Raise the Vintage Rad Tech Shirt Furthermore, I will do this bar and find a partner who treats you like a partner. You dumped him because you asked for something on your birthday that he doesn’t like, so he made a disaster out of your kitchen and then took a nap while you cleaned it up. Then called you a bitch for getting mad about it. I mean, that sucks for him but I would have a problem being with someone that utterly useless. Maybe it’ll be a moment of awakening and self improvement for him? I doubt it. He’ll probably be blaming me for his failure at everything, he used to blame everyone else for everything else that had gone wrong in his life. I told him he needs to get help for victim mentality disorder.