Here’s the Ryan Borucki Seattle 30 Essential T-Shirt Besides,I will do this thing—if he can’t handle this conversation and come out the other side ready to accept you and hear about your abortions, I think that’s grounds for going your own ways. You can agree to disagree on a lot of things, but you have to agree on each other’s humanity. Time for a graceful exit from that relationship. Better that you found this out this way, before anything more traumatic could occur. Your partner must respect your bodily autonomy. You’ve been together for 13 years and this is the first you’re learning that’s not pro-choice? How is that even possible? You need to tell him about your abortions and gadgets his reaction. If he thinks you’re a murderer you need to leave him.