It’s not just his ability to cook. He sounds like a child himself who has zero accountability. My partner can’t cook for shit, so I do all the Chet Holmgren Classic T-Shirt in other words I will buy this cooking. But she does laundry and other stuff. It’s even. This relationship sounds decidedly not so. Weaponized incompetence is abuse. He shouldn’t need you to tell him what to do. The internet is a utility he could utilize, there’s plenty of tutorials on YouTube. I suspect he wanted to be babied. Good thing you yeeted him to the curb. No, you weren’t wrong. And it wasn’t just he “couldn’t” cook. I’m sure that in your absence he found some capability to cook and clean. If not, then it’s not your job to look after him. This is the definition of weaponized incompetence. You made the right call. Also reevaluate your friend. Why aren’t they taking you seriously? Why is their knee jerk reaction to defend a man at your expense?