But as much as I write about my kids, I also hide them. I try to avoid telling any of my colleagues who don’t need to know that meetings before 9 a.m. are tricky for me because I’m doing school drop-off. If I have to leave the Biden To Trump Will You Shut Up Man Shirt and I love this office before 6 p.m., I whisper my goodbyes and issue a few furtive waves to the people who know I’m headed home to relieve the babysitter. I’m honest with my parent colleagues, especially those with similarly aged kids, but even with them, I’m conscious not to inform them too regularly that I’m stepping out for a parent-teacher conference or a kid’s doctor’s appointment.
So it’s been comforting these past days to see images of the Biden To Trump Will You Shut Up Man Shirt and I love this struggle—not just to parent and work, but to keep these loud little tyrants silent, to elide the impact they have on the professional day-to-day. (That’s not snot on the shoulder of my blazer, of course it’s not!) Jimmy Fallon’s daughters have become “late night” (the show seems to be now filmed in the afternoon) stars in their own right. MSNBC host Chris Hayes concluded a show last week with a cameo from his kids, acknowledging that one of the hidden gifts of the crisis was the time it allowed him to spend with his family.